Hey guys, Dan Thomas from Image Doctor and Improvemant.com and watch the video above or read the article below for another suggestion of ROMANTIC MOVIES GUYS SHOULD WATCH.
Today’s romantic movie guys should watch is called 500 days of Summer starring Joseph Gordon Levitt and Zooey Deschanel. This is an excellent movie I recommend guys watch to better understand women and relationships.
500 days of Summer is a very honest portrayal of the extreme highs of being in a new and exciting relationship, and the extreme lows of dealing with the same relationship ending.
Not all women are searching for the cookie cutter love scenario of meeting a guy, dating him for long enough to know he is marriage material and then playing a waiting game until he proposes.
Some women have commitment issues in the same way men do, or may just prefer more light hearted relationships with no clear expectation or idea of where the relationship is heading. Whilst this is far less common than a woman looking for a serious relationships, it’s still possible you may encounter a female similar to Zooey Deschanels character Summer.
Men also want to be aware that just because you have sex with a women a number of times, don’t automatically assume you are now in a relationship with her.
The movie is an excellent reminder that women can be very insensitive and even cruel and that men should not just assume that all women are soft natured, thoughtful and very caring and considerate of people’s feelings. These are all human qualities and not gender specific.
The movie serves to remind men that there should be a line drawn between being very interested in a women and being infatuated with her. The latter is not a healthy state to be in and can drive a women away instead of drawing her closer to you.
If you were not already aware of this fact, the movie is a good reminder that dating a girl you work with can be a recipe for disaster. This is the case not only for your personal happiness, but even more so for the effectiveness of your career if things don’t work out. From personal experience from my teenage years I suggest never fishing off the company wharf.
The movie is a harsh reminder you may date a women who said she wasn’t interested in getting married, having a wedding or any type of conventional commitments, only for you to discover later on that she married somebody else.
When you watch the movie you will see that Joseph Gordon Levitt’s character Tom drastically alters his idea of love based on his break up. This is an example of what men should NOT do because the experience of love and relationships should not be defined by only one woman.
Another take out is that following a break up, in almost all cases you are best to not be friends with the women. This is especially the case if she broke up with you as the contact will only hinder your ability to move on with your life.
Joseph Gordon Levitt’s character highlighted that if you want a serious relationship then date somebody who wants the exact same thing and don’t think you will change a women’s intentions by becoming closing to her.
However the biggest take away I found from the film 500 days of summer is that men need to play devils advocate in the early stages of a new relationship.
I say often in my videos that men are logical creatures!! When it comes to just about all things such as sex, decision making, problem solving, careers, financial decisions etc, men are very logic driven where as many women are often guided as much or more so by their emotions rather than logic.
In an ironic twist though, men seem to lose all sense of logic in the early stages of dating whilst women tend to really dial up their level of logical thinking.
Women are far more emotionally intelligence than men and tune into their feelings and emotions more than we do. Women tend to cherish and guard their emotions more closely in the early stages of dating. and may even act like detectives who are trying to uncover a man’s flaws before investing too much of their emotions into a relationship with him.
A man’s usually logic driven approach can almost be short circuited as he gets swept up in the honeymoon phase of fun, flirting and new sex. Whilst many women are ticking or crossing off a long checklist in the first few months of a relationship, many men are just searching for things to tick like the fact she is pretty, she also likes the sport you like, she is great in bed and anything else that stands out as positive.
And once some men have a few ticks on the board, they can close their eyes to and turn off the logical switch in their minds that should be continuing to screen for possible red flags that may suggest long term incompatibilities.
Above all, 500 days of Summer highlights that Joseph Gordon Levitt’s character was wearing rose tinted glasses in the early stages of the film which blinded him to the incompatibility of not only Summers personality, but also the fact they each wanted different outcomes in life and love.
And the final take out from this film is that you never know where and in what situation you may meet a new women, so live with an air of expectancy and optimism when it comes to finding love.
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